The Following Feelings and Needs Words are the perfect way to begin learning Self-Empathy, Empathy and the other components of The 6 Part Conversation©
The Feelings and Needs Inventory of Nonviolent Communication® developed by Marshall Rosenberg Ph.D.
To utilize these lists in the most effective way please consider the following:
- You are free to use these or additional words that reflect the uncomfortable feelings you have. All of these fall into 3 basic categories: Fear, Anger and Sadness
- When you look at your Feelings be sure they are true feeling words and not stories such as “victimized”, “disempowered” etc.
- When you identify you8r unmet Needs notice that each of these Needs words is a “positive” word.
Feelings we may experience when our Needs are not being met.
| AFRAIDApprehensiveDread
Foreboding Frightened Mistrustful Petrified Scared Suspicious Terrified Wary Worried
ANNOYED Aggravated Dismayed Disgruntled Displeased Exasperated Frustrated Impatient Irritated Irked
ANGRY Enraged Furious Incensed Indignant Irate Livid Outraged Resentful
AVERSION Animosity Appalled Contempt Disgusted Dislike Hate Horrified Hostile Repulsed
CONFUSED Ambivalent Baffled Bewildered Dazed Hesitant Lost Mystified Perplexed Puzzled Torn |
DISCONNECTEDAlienatedAloof
Apathetic Bored Cold Detached Distant Distracted Indifferent Numb Removed Uninterested Withdrawn
DISQUIET Agitated Alarmed Discombobulated Disconcerted Disturbed Perturbed Rattled Restless Shocked Startled Surprised Troubled Turbulent Turmoil Uncomfortable Uneasy Unnerved Unsettled Upset
EMBARRASSED Ashamed Chagrined Flustered Guilty Mortified
FATIQUE Beat Burnt out Depleted Exhausted Lethargic Listless Sleepy Tired Weary Worn out
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PAINAgonyAnguished
Bereaved Devastated Grief Heartbroken Hurt Lonely Miserable Regretful Remorseful
SAD Depressed Dejected Despair Despondent Disappointed Discouraged Disheartened Forlorn Gloomy Heavy hearted Hopeless Melancholy Unhappy Wretched
TENSE Anxious Cranky Distressed Distraught Edgy Fidgety Frazzled Irritable Jittery Nervous Overwhelmed Restless Stressed out
VULNERABLE Fragile Guarded Helpless Insecure Leery Reserved Sensitive Shaky
YEARNING Envious Jealous Longing Nostalgic Pining Wistful |
Needs that may be the cause of our Feelings
| CONNECTIONAcceptanceAffection
Appreciation Belonging Cooperation Communication Closeness Community Companionship Compassion Consideration Consistency Empathy Inclusion Intimacy Love Mutuality Nurturing Respect/Self-respect Safety Security Stability Support To know and be known To see and be seen To understand and be understood Trust Warmth
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HONESTYAuthenticityIntegrity
Presence
PLAY Joy Humor
PEACE Beauty Communion Ease Equality Harmony Inspiration Order
PHYICAL WELL-BEING Air Food Movement/exercise Rest/sleep Sexual expression Safety Shelter Touch Water |
MEANINGAwarenessCelebration of life
Challenge Clarity Competence Consciousness Contribution Creativity Discovery Efficacy Effectiveness Growth Hope Learning Mourning Participation Purpose Self-expression Stimulation To matter Understanding
AUTONOMY Choice Freedom Independence Space Spontaneity |