As a Certified Mediator, I have worked with couples throughout the United States and abroad, helping them create the most peaceful and inexpensive no-court divorces. Whether I worked with a couple possessing $60 million or a young husband and wife who were arguing about $3,000 in IRS debt, the strategy that works to craft a fair, inexpensive, and FASTER divorce agreement is these 3 Divorce Secrets that can save YOU a FORTUNE:
Secret # 1 Whether you possess great wealth or only debt, the biggest savings is to limit your mediation or litigation time which minimizes your cost. That means you MUST learn The 6 Part Conversation© which generates cooperation between you and your spouse and children. Neither fighting nor giving in will work; instead, this peaceful and powerful communication tool that I developed 20 years ago creates more cooperation and peace every time. The most amazing benefit is that it requires that only 1 spouse learn it, and that means YOU. This is part of the secret sauce that allowed one of my clients to save $11 MILLION in his own divorce!
Secret #2 In any divorce, the most important decision you make is about the custody of any minor children and about your money and assets. The successful strategy to limit mediation and litigation is this; the only person to run your financials must be a CPA specializing in divorce or a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. UNDER NO circumstances have your attorney or mediator run your numbers; it’s simply not our skill set!
Secret #3 You must decide what you are willing to give and what you must get; that is the secret to any successful mediation. In my book, "The Marry-Go-Round or How to Save your Money your Sanity or your Life!" I describe The 7 Stages of Divorce® as Panic, Denial, Agony, Rage, Epiphany when the light bulb goes off over your head; Negotiation, and Peace! In the Negotiation Stage, you MUST get absolutely clear on what YOUR goal. As with any crucial decision in life, intention and focus are the keys to successful results. At the same time, you must communicate in a soft and motivating manner using The 6 Part Conversation so that you aren’t seen as “a man with a plan” which will COST YOU because it will require much more mediation or litigation time.
