Are you running at 6 a.m. in Central Park because it feels great or because he likes athletes?
Would you rent a house in Southampton to run into him every weekend or has it always been your “happy place”?
Are you changing jobs or even careers to relocate for him?
Do you drink breakfast smoothies and skip lunch because your doctor told you to or because you’re prepping for a sex-only weekend?
Have you given up motherhood because he doesn’t want children?
Have you given up any or all of your key needs because you’re trying to please him?
Whether you are an independent woman or a domestic goddess there is a delicate balance between wanting to satisfy your man and selling your soul to the devil!
A loving nature is the result of estrogen and progesterone, female hormones, coursing through your system and it generates a mothering nature that also keeps babies alive. If you’re the ultimate loving woman you’ll need to learn how to press on your own brakes because no one is going to tell you to think of yourself first, are they?
If you’re a more proactive woman who is more of a logical woman, a go-getter who looks for big results you probably have more testosterone as all women do and yours is making you focused and goal-oriented. The trick here is to pick a goal where there is “proof of life”; in this case proof that he is really interested in you, too. The key is checking first for proof that your attention is welcome and reciprocated. Because even if you have the cleverest or most devious plan most guys want to land the fish themselves and not vice versa.
There are two flavors of women who are way too obsessed- and that’s not a judgement; it’s that these behaviors just don’t work!
Stalking the guy can just scare him so no drive-bys or cyber stalking; just find a way to channel the CIA and show up once in a while at his favorite restaurants and clubs if you can act calm and natural. A great strategy is to bring a male friend who won’t block your action yet who will look attractive enough to awaken any possessiveness your target boyfriend might have.
If you find yourself dreaming and scheming about a passionate weekend at the Pierre or in Paris that’s perfect; use my Goal-reaching skills. First you focus on it; be very clear about the “By dd/mm/2016 we are making love together”. See yourself enjoying every aspect of your night or weekend or honeymoon together and feel the thrill of it- that’s how I got serious movie stars into my own life. And keep seeing this again and again with a very high focused energy until it happens.
Another secret about obsession is to think about exactly what he’s obsessed with and see if you could be the woman of his dreams for a long-term love affair because when it’s a mutual obsession that’s a lot more fun, right!
